When a man marries again, it has the expectation to find ' something diferente' , that is, in some way the previous relationship did not give certain, then the choice of a new partner estimates that this man searchs an friend who brings it moments of well-being and happiness. A relationship to function of balanced form the two partners, beyond the love, must have emotional complicity and tools to deal with the difficulties.It has some interesting questions to be analyzed: – The love of a man and a woman is different of the love of a father for the children. In some situations, the stepmother wants to compete with the paternal love, but she remembers: you are woman of this man and not son! – The word ' madrasta' it has pejorativa connotation in the social one. Histories as the White of Snow and the Cinderela had popularized the cruelty of the stepmothers. It was for jealousy that these stepmothers had acted offensively against its enteadas.
– To feel jealousy is not necessarily something bad, the important one is what we make with this feeling. We can figurative to offer the poisoned apple (removal of the stepsons of the father, quarrels motivated for jealousy, egoistic attitudes, infantile attitudes) or to work the jealousy, that is, admitiz it and to become it less harmful (differentiating the stepsons of its mother, looking for to offer to space for the father and the stepsons, treating the stepsons with respect and devotion). – It is very common to know what the former-woman spoke on you through others: stepsons, friend, mother-in-law, brother-in-law and others. You finish receiving influences from other people, some times of form even distorted. – The former-woman has provocative attitudes and you she answers in the same way the familiar life is engaged. A good form to deal with the provocation is to ignore it, in such a way has an exhaustion due to shock.
It is obvious that such an attitude towards his wife is nothing but a manifestation of extreme disrespect. We thus seems to be saying: 'It's your duty – to facilitate my life and I have come to expect from you this'. Wow! Attitude to the partner as something for granted may be manifested in various forms. For example, we take our role in this life more seriously, thus downplaying the significance of the partner. We believe that our contribution to family life more, and partner indulgent feel 'lucky'. Many of us forget to say 'thank you' and 'please', some even exclude these words from her vocabulary.
We rarely admit how lucky we are, that we have a couple, and as we would have been difficult without them. Sometimes we go too demanding to spouses and treat them not as your friends. It happens that in the presence of others we talk to them 'or to express some disrespectful judgments. Some of us believe they know the thoughts of their spouse, and therefore willing to accept for their solutions. There is another common mistake: we mean that in our house should always be be clean and hot food. Or the money to pay the bills, or lawn with a neat lawn. And this order must support it wife. They have a duty to see to it that the mechanism for the home management did not allow failure. Finally, very few people listen to their spouses or are willing to share their feelings – except that it is in our interests.